We are in a process of proceeding step by step with LifePath mapping tools to reveal the patterning and momentum of your life sojourn to Now. Last week (see previous two or three posts to catch up or you can catch up just with this post), you composed a list of significant Shaping Events from your life: those meaningful events, situations and/or relationships that “have influenced the person you have become.” I asked you to also RATE each of your Shaping Events, from -5 to +5, according to their relative impact. You could rate an event singly, e.g. +3 as having had a positive influence, or as a ‘binary’ event, e.g. +3/-3, indicating how the same event or situation has had both negative and positive impacts from your retrospective point of view.
Now then, next, from this list of Shaping Events you can easily discover your Life Themes! These are those KINDS of events, situations and/or relationships that have provided the primary content, as it were, of your Life Story.
Read through your list of Shaping Events several times slowly, looking for KINDS of these events that you have listed. SORT all of the Shaping Events from your list into a set of Kinds of events that are your Life Themes. Also, NAME these themes in a way that is personally meaningful to you. Some of your events might be included in more than one Theme, and some Themes could include but one event, though most of your Themes will likely include two or more of your Shaping Events.
Now then, make a new list, this time of the Life Themes you have discovered, and to the right of each Theme in this list add the numbers you initially assigned (or do now) to your Shaping Events that you would include as examples of each of your Themes.
For example (just a sample for two hypothetical Themes):
Life Themes Shaping Events
FAMILY #1, #2, #7, #12 HAPPY TIMES #1, #4, #5, #11
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This is enough to add to your LifePath mapping process for this week. I encourage you to discover the Life Themes evident from your list of Shaping Events and also to contemplate and/or journal or talk with a loved one, or someone with which you might be sharing this process, about your Life Themes.
As preparation for your next step of actually “mapping” your Life Themes (See next week’s post), I encourage you to journal and/or reflect about what ROLE each of your Life Themes has had in your life. Has one or more of them been an uplifting influence in your life, helping you move forward with your interests and goals? Have one or more of them more been holding you “back” or keeping you “down” in some way? When in your life has one or another of your Life Themes dominated or been central to your experience?
For example, in reviewing my Life Themes at one point I realized I would usually Travel (one of my Themes) after a significant downward trend in a Relationship (another Theme), and this often helped me to recoup and go forward again with other goal-related themes in my life.
Welcome to Step 2 of the LifePath Mapping process I am providing in this blog over this next two-three months. (You may see the previous post from the calendar below for Step One.) All of these techniques can also be found in my 2018 book, Your Life Path (Skyhorse Press), and in the LifePath Mapping workbook you could download for free from the panel on the right in this blog site.
I invite you to respond in your life mapping journal to the following prompts (Or, you might wish to print out this post and write your answer in the open spaces below, compiling these step by step pages in a notebook.):
1A) What is a human lifetime like? Close your eyes and imagine/ name an image that represents for you a human lifetime: What image or metaphor comes to mind? (For example: Life is a Journey…)
1B) How/ why? How is YOUR life like the image or metaphor of a human lifetime you have imagined?
2) What are the typical stages or phases, if any, of a normal human lifetime, whether or not they are typical of yours?
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The first two prompts above allow you to express a Life Metaphor that feels appropriate to your Life Path. Prompt #3 reveals a Life Course Schema Model that feels appropriate to your current mindset. The LifePath Metaphor and Life Course Schema Models you have identified—though these could vary in different phases of your life or even now, according to different archetypal facets of your personality outlook—may reveal quite a lot about how you presently conceptualize “where you are at” as well as how you might be feeling about where you are at in your LifePath today.
These two cognitive models of your LifePath are often closely interconnected. For example, an “Up and Down” LP Metaphor such as Life is like a Roller Coaster or Hiking Up and Down a Mountain is often–though not always–associated with a Cyclic Life Course Schema (e.g. seeing life as organized by decades or seven-year cycles). A Journey sort of LP Metaphor, by contrast, is usually associated with a Linear Stage Model Life Course schema such as a sequence of five or more specific stages from Childhood through Old Age.
What about YOUR models of a lifetime? Do you see a connection between your LifePath Metaphor and your Life Course Schema model? You may wish to journal further about this in your journal, or below.
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These two models or images reflect something about your cognitive outlook as you embark upon your LifePath Mapping process. In Joseph Campbell’s terms at this stage (as explained in his The Hero With 1000 Faces book), you are “Approaching the Threshold of Departure” upon this LifePath Mapping process as a rites of passage or Hero Cycle adventure.
Stay Tuned! Next: Step Three—Compiling a list of your LifePath Shaping Events.
Recently a dear friend, Ro, and since then also a dear friend of hers, have engaged with me online via Zoom for LifePath mapping sessions. And, I must say, “it works beautifully!” (words from a TV commercial as I was writing this).
Initially (c. 2010-2018) I conducted research, presented a series of university Humanities courses, and facilitated several public and academic seminar workshops while developing the LifePath Mapping self-discovery/ personal growth and development process that I provided for the public in my 2018 book, Your Life Path: Life mapping tools to help you follow your heart and live your dream, Now! (Skyhorse Publishers/ Carrel imprint). I have coached well over 360 persons through this often life-changing ‘rite of passage’ self-reflection and journalling process. Almost everyone who has completed this creative life mapping approach to reveal their personal Life Themes, Life Chapters, Life Story, Archetypal cast of characters, Life Dream and challenges, and Life Dream realization/ Future LifePath envisioning procedures have found it empowering to reveal their own unfolding story to themselves so they can envision a more mindful and fulfilling future life trajectory.
I do not take credit for life mappers’ deeply meaningful personal reflections and creative visioning abilities. I am always amazed at how easily and readily anyone willing to “look within” can reveal their own life story threads and encounter some of their most dynamic unconscious archetypal sub-selves—and internal conflicts—with eloquence and clarity, by engaging with this simple, processual sequence of life mapping and journaling tools.
It lights me up when I coach someone through a life mapping process. It is like being invited to attend another’s sacred spiritual initiation; in fact, it is very much like that, because people often undergo a deep and profound transformation of consciousness.
My reason for sharing about my recent return to coaching using the LifePath mapping process is that in witnessing again how individuals can benefit from taking ‘time out’ for life review and future life creative envisioning, I realize that I should—and would still like to—find ways to share this approach more widely. The book that I published, while I believe well written and comprehensive, did not get published in the format I had intended. Since the publisher mainly targets libraries, they required me to reduce the 75 workbook tools I had designed for the self-discovery process, to truncated, chapter-ending instructions, so that readers would not write directly in the books. Very few readers, that I know of anyway, have taken full advantage of these tools except when I have personally coached them through the process. I have included The Life Maps Toolkit itself, including all 75 workbook activities fully formatted, as an unpublished Ms. which you are free to download from the right panel here. Some fifty or more persons have taken advantage of the toolkit from here. Yet without the book to provide adequate context, the toolkit alone may not provide enough guidance to fulfill the process altogether.
I would like next to redo the workbook-style toolkit by adding brief chapter or section-introductory material, so that the workbook can adequately conduct the reader/ life mapper through the full process effectively.
But, meanwhile:
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I INVITE ANY OF YOU who are readers of this blog to contact me for life mapping sessions via Zoom. I would provide at least three free, approximately one hour sessions, and beyond that we could negotiate terms if you might wish to continue with me, instead of on your own, to progress more deeply with the process. These three sessions would guide you to complete Stage One (of three) of the LifePath Mapping process, including: computer-generated LifeMaps with your self-identified Life Themes and Life Chapters; a Parallel Myth synopsis of your heroic life adventure; and an introduction to your personal-unconscious archetypal cast of mythic characters. Small group sessions could also be negotiated.
You can reach me by responding in the Comments area below, or see my contact info in the menu tab above. Feel free to share about this offer with a friend or relative, too, if you feel s/he might benefit.
A few days ago as I removed the bandage over my lacerated palm, woohoo! Finally, all of the palm has formed new skin over the wound from having sliced my hand with a glass bowl that broke while I was doing dishes over six weeks ago. The top layer of old skin around the wound has now sloughed off around the fresh closure. A new cycle of healing and fresh growth has come about, and with it, my passion for moving forward especially with life adventures (a friend arriving for a two week visit tonight), with teaching (a new live Zoom class begins today!), and with creative projects.
‘Turning over a new leaf’ brings positive energy for moving forward in life after having felt stymied for a long duration. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs so truly encapsulates the cycles of growth associated with the ins and outs of striving for happiness and the workings of the creative process.
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I recognize this juncture as a potentially critical transition point in my own life path, my Mystory. I was drifting into complacency, but this injury and the need to slow down and focus on the healing process, and my gratitude for the gradual healing, has allowed me to review and set new goals. I opened a spiritual book “anywhere” to see what Spirit might say at this juncture, and I opened to a page completely blank except for two words:
BOOK TWO
I like it! Not just a new Life Chapter available, but an entire next volume of life experience to come. This reminds me also of the Nordic Blank Rune which I recently drew from the runes bag:
Blank is the end, blank the beginning. This is the Rune of total trust and should be takenas exciting evidence of your own true destiny which, time and again, rises like the phoenixfrom the ashes of what we call fate.
(Ralph Blum, The Book of Runes/ Rune 25: pg.118)
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What about Yourstory? Have you had or are you currently facing a significant or even a traumatic event? What is or has been the hidden gifts from this difficult ordeal? Has it offered the opportunity for a mid-course correction?
As I wait still, over a month now, for my lacerated palm wound to heal over, I recognize the value of this ‘plot twist’ I shared about in the prior blog. This has indeed been a major wake up call, an opportunity to evaluate and inspect where I am at in life, where I aim to go from here, and how to get there. The boxed message above that I literally woke up to like a billboard sign posted in my mental viewscreen between sleeping and waking some twenty years ago, returns as a reminder. This clear message from Spirit propelled me forward with the life mapping research I wrote about in Your Life Path (2018), and now it poses the same question quite a bit further down the road in my own life path:
What are the dreams
I am YET here to realize?
God-Realization. How’s that for a life purpose? When I ‘cut to the chase’ of what I strive to accomplish with this lifetime of exploration and experience, that is IT. I’m not going to ruminate or proliferate here about what God-Realization means or is about as a goal for me, but I recognize that all else in my life boils down to this throughline that can be used like a magnifying lens to illuminate what is helpful and what is distracting or counterproductive.
Writing, for me, is integral to my spiritual goal because it enables me to explore ideas and to communicate, providing thereby channels both for inflow (letting ideas in) and outflow (important for spiritual growth via expansion of awareness and service to life Itself). What interferes? Too much TV and immersion in external events that do not feed me as Soul but provide mainly fodder for mental chewing or emotional angst. TV and media can be fine as background ‘noise’ and information in a balanced use, but I need to focus inwardly on higher purpose and maintain a more detached view of extrinsic material conditions. For me that means: contemplate more, write more.
Indeed, I have begun to recalibrate and seed the ground for greater progress toward my ultimate goal. I have gathered a set of writing notebooks and am developing several project ideas. I am also carving out more quiet time daily for active imagination and contemplation.
The physical trauma I experienced when I lacerated my palm, leading to 13 stitches and then two weeks later having the wound reopened and cleaned deeply, with the upper layers being peeled away because of an infection, has provided a golden opportunity to peel layers away from the detritus of everyday habits, to help me refocus on what truly matters.
What about you? What life dreams are you yet here to realize? When you peel away the surface layers of your everyday routines, are you on course for realizing your life purpose, or do you find you are mainly just getting by?
When I was a child I used to imagine how a writer might “write (a character) into a corner.” No apparent way out, that would mean, for the character or their plotline.
What then? Either the story ends, unresolved as a form of tragedy, or a plot twist must occur. The fabled deus ex machina could be invoked via a sudden rescue or a magical escape. Easy enough if you have a wizarding wand at Hogwarts, perhaps. But what can we do in our own Mystory adventure tales—what have or could you do?—when feeling stuck in a dead-end corner?
“Everything can change, in an instant!”
– A Walmart cashier to me, 7/14/23
On July 12, after having just written the above preliminary ideas about plot twists for this blog, I was given a wakeup call (actually two, since then) about how quickly a plot twist can come about in my own unfolding life story. I was doing dishes, before I would feed my beloved, well managed diabetic dog Sophie and give her insulin. A water bowl slipped from my right hand and with my left hand I instinctively reached down to catch the bowl, pushing it into the counter. It broke into my left palm, lacerating the palm deeply from left to right!
Youch! I clutched onto the wound with my right hand to close the wound enough to slow the bleeding, and I knew I needed to get myself to the ER as soon as possible, no time to spare. I live alone with my pets. I left the door unlocked so I could call a pet sitter hopefully to tend to Sophie. I found a napkin in the car and clasped it hard while I drove the fortunately only five minutes or so to the ER.
“Help!” I called out simply at the ER reception desk. They immediately put me into a triage room and wrapped the wound to stop the bleeding. While waiting for stitches to be put in, after several calls I was able to reach a pet sitter who has a background as a nurse, and she was able to get to the house to feed Sophie and give her some insulin, even waiting with her the 3 ½ hours it took before I could return home. She told me Sophie waited, looking out the front door window, the whole time (such a dear!). A PA put in 13 stitches, sewing three and a half inches across the base of my palm.
My angel Soul companion, Sophie (LW)
This event has been a wakeup call for me. One inch lower and the glass could have severed my wrist vein; ½ inch deeper and it could have severed nerve or tendons, damaging my hand forever.
after stitches– LW
As it is (I say gratefully to Spirit), I was spared these worst-case scenarios. Yet I feel that this sudden calamity marks a significant turn of events in my life, bringing a potential plot twist of significant proportion. That very day, before the accident, I received a file from an illustrator with the back cover of my upcoming sci-fi book which will be the first of a trilogy I have nurtured for decades. It is ready to launch into Kindle and I will do so by the end of August. (More about that to come as I will surely announce the book release at this blog site.) With this development and realizing how precarious life could be, I have rededicated myself to continuing with several book projects that will take several years to complete.
Before all this, honestly I have been in a quandary about writing since realizing that, no matter how worthy or good a book might be, without either a mainstream commercial publisher able to announce and advertise the book widely, and/or without a global platform as a celebrity or politician, or without enormous financial resources, it is highly unlikely these days to reach much of a readership. So, is it worth all the effort that goes into the writing and honing of a book? Or is writing mere vanity, an essentially futile pastime?
I do feel personally it is yet worth the love that goes into envisioning and manifesting a creative expression. And somehow, my sudden physical jolt, like a near death experience, has served to stir my creative juices and to galvanize my creative resolve.
A second physical development which has also spurred me to deep consideration of how best to go forward in life has to do with a dental condition. Enough to say my good dentist has been helping me troubleshoot a persistent gum inflammation, and lately he has asked me to get a biopsy. Yuck! I think (am hopeful) I can resolve the issue short of that, but still, the thought of how serious health matters could quickly arise again leads me to want to focus more intently on writing and on my spiritual goals.
“Your level of acceptance is your state of consciousness.”– Harold Klemp
My resolve: Acceptance of a plot twist. A time to pause and diagnose or evaluate, then move forward on the path that opens ahead.
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Plot twists are valuable steppingstones, sometimes emerging as crossroads in the unfolding of our Mystory tales. Resisting change restricts the dynamic potentials of the universal life force or spiritual energies in our lives. Acceptance, for me now, is the way forward, to transcend a dead-end corner I had crafted.
As with any good tale, your life story—your Mystory—contains a dynamic cast of characters, externally and inwardly as well. Your constellation of family members, friends, pets, and associates may vary across your different life chapters or by Theme (Work, Romance, Travel, etc.), but with any given life event or situation, a cast of characters is on set to help enact the scene.
Inwardly, your own ensemble cast of characters include what archetypal psychologists (e.g. Jung, Hillman, Bebeau, Myss and Campbell) might call your inner assembly of unconscious persona archetypes. Your external networks or bands of associates may also carry archetypal significance for you, as they may represent ‘types’ of relations with which you have more or less patterned kinds of relationships, and from which you could derive “lessons” as well as meaningful benefits.
To become better acquainted with what—or, whomever—you bring to the scene from the vantage points of your unconscious persona archetypes, a dialogue journaling technique can be used which I call (Stage One of) a Dynamic Archetype Dialogue Process. (See my book Your Life Path, 2020; or you can download for free my workbook on Life Mapping available in the right panel of this blog site.)
If you feel comfortable trying this approach, you could sit in a comfortable chair or sit propped up with pillows in bed. Take a few deep breaths and focus your attention inwardly in a gentle fashion… Invite your various ‘parts of Self’ to introduce themselves to you, one at a time. You could engage with this inner dialogue just with your active imagination, or, as I prefer, you can journal or write out the dialogue as it emerges. You might be surprised to discover how easy and natural this ‘dialogue process’ can be. Be sure to use first person, present tense in your conversation with your archetypal parts of Self.
You could set up your archetype dialogue based on a specific situational context, say by inviting parts of yourself involved with a relationship, or able to help you face a significant decision, or in conflict over some difficult consideration. Or rather, you could simply open the dialogue to whichever members of your Inner Council would like to ‘step up’ to the mike. I usually open such an encounter by offering a safe space and asking for different archetypes not to interrupt each other. [Please note: This is not an official therapeutic process and I am not a professional psychologist, so please proceed under your own reconnaissance. I usually let people know to discontinue the dialogue if any discomfort or negativity arises.]
You could use some handy prompts to help develop the dialogue, such as:
Who are you?
Tell me about yourself (e.g. your likes, dislikes; hopes, fears; strengths and weaknesses)
What would you like me to do/ know/ be with regard to a situation you are active with?
How could you help with this situation?
Archetypal psychologists and philosophers of the Self, such as specifically William James in the late 19th century, have observed that we are each ‘multiple’—most of us in a balanced, more or less well integrated manner—such that it can be healthy to explore and attend to disparate or conflicting internal viewpoints within the unconscious psyche. Joseph Campbell often stated that suppressing your conflicting internal perspectives could result in a ‘schizophrenic’ breakup of the personality.
The ‘devil-on one-hand; angel-on-the-other’ sort of scenario, for instance—or whatever contrasting parts of Self you might acknowledge—can be essential elements to include in a balanced consideration of choices and opportunities you aim to achieve.
So, for any particular situation or life chapter, what internal ‘character cast’ is present, and also what external types of cast members are you engaging with (n.b., this could include dream characters, too)? How can you best engage your Inner Council (/counsel) to help you understand and achieve your goals and strengths? How might you best cooperate or co-create positive outcomes by combining your inner council with your external character assembly?
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When your external and internal cast and crew are integrated and well engaged, as with the ensemble cast of any good transformational novel, film, or historical moment, tremendous outcomes—and important life lessons—are always within your reach!
Writers may develop a “throughline” to guide the plot development of a story. Dictionary.com provides the following definition of a throughline: “a theme or idea that runs from the beginning to the end of a book, film, etcetera.”
The throughline unifies a story, gives it cohesion and clarity, and impels a strong message. While editing, a good rule of thumb for the author is to ask, for every chapter and even for every sentence: Does it advance the throughline? If so, keep it in; if not, delete or modify the element.
So, what of a life story, particularly your own Mystory? How might the notion of a throughline pertain? Can you construct a one sentence précis that encapsulates the whole of your life story to date, in a nutshell?
You might find it easier at first to compose a set of throughlines for specific, meaningful phases, or themes, from your life. This can be helpful for reflecting on some of your most significant lessons or goals. But a holistic throughline, one that connects and threads together the whole of your life’s journey to date, can help you to ‘find yourself’ in your present life conditions, which could aid you with any decision or contemplated action you are confronting, now or in the foreseeable future.
I do have a throughline for my own lifetime, although I feel it would be gratuitous to share it in a public forum. It is private, as perhaps a strong throughline should remain. So allow me to share instead several hypothetical life story throughline examples:
E.g. “My life is…” :
a life full of wonderment at the beauty of love and Nature;
about navigating the ups and downs of hardship, to achieve a more balanced experience;
about giving and receiving love;
about fulfilling my deepest potentials
Actually I can see aspects of my own central throughline in all of the above projections. I invite you to journal or actively contemplate about several hypothetical or partial throughlines for your own Mystory, then see if you can frame a deeper, unifying or core theme that encapsulates and integrates the various threads that your life experience is weaving.
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How might you apply your throughline to “editing” your current, day to day life?
Feel free to share about your use of this thought experiment in Comments!
I am and have always been a Dreamer. Are you? Since dreams, visions and reflections have inspired some of the pivotal turning points of my life, I would include them within one of my own MyStory Life Theme chapters. I do hope that as you read any of the stories I am sharing in this blog from my own MyStory experiences, that these stories might help you to reflect on YOUR OWN MyStory stories and themes. I have always understood it is best to write about what I know best, which is why I share from my own life experiences, but the point of sharing about them here and in my books (Your Life Path, 2018; Better Endings, 2022) is TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO REFLECT ON and to write and/or creatively express yourself about your own Shaping Events, to inspire your own Better Endings. So, I invite you again to keep a dedicated MyStory Journal, wherein you can record memoirs that are most meaningful to you and could be helpful for you to collect and share as a legacy of insights with others in your life.
So, I add here one of my own MyStory short stories from the theme of Visions, Dreams and Reflections. I have been blessed to occasionally recall a very clear “visionary” sort of dream. These inner experiences usually occur in that zone of consciousness between sleeping and waking, when lucid dreaming commonly occurs. I hesitate to share many of these openly, because they are of such rare and deep significance. But since I definitely include this one in my own MyStory collection, I choose to share it here in case it may carry some insight for others.
A Visitor
Between sleeping and waking, around a decade ago: a beautiful Being appeared in my awareness as a Visitor. It is difficult to describe this Being, whom I think of as a Silent One. Male or female? Olive toned or other? Old or young? Just this beautiful Presence.
S/he/It asks me a simple question, and the following brief dialogue ensues:
Beautiful Being (BB): “So, how are things going out there?”
LW (somehow aware of the slant of the question): “Well, there are many people, with many different religious beliefs, but most people are still afraid of death.”
BB (after a prolonged, pregnant pause): “Next time, we won’t do Religion.”
Then I awoke. I felt humbled and grateful to have received such a Visitation, and I have never forgotten our clear, brief exchange. It has led me to ponder the cosmological and/or spiritual basis of this Being’s words.
Just two days ago, I was reading Michio Kaku’s interesting book, The Future of Humanity. As a footnote of sorts to my visionary Visit, while reviewing several theories about how the known universe might end, Kaku relates an interesting perspective based on Olaf Stapledon’s idea of a Star Maker:
“This takes us back to Olaf Stapledon, who imagined that there is a Star Maker, a cosmic being that creates and discards entire universes. He is like a celestial painter, constantly conjuring up new universes, tinkering with their properties, and then moving on to the next one. Each universe has different laws of nature and different life-forms.” (Michio Kaku, The Future of Humanity, pg. 303)
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I am also reminded of a section of a book I read many years ago by Paul Twitchell, I think Dialogues With The Masters or maybe The Far Country. Twitchell similarly describes a sort of highly evolved being—I believe referred to therein as Silent Ones—who experiment with creating and designing universes.
So, what might be the relevance for my own understanding? To me this insight from the Visitor in my waking dream has helped me to accept the wide diversity of religious or spiritual viewpoints, knowing that no matter how much I might—and do—explore spiritual awareness, likely I will never achieve higher clarity than my puny mental capacity may contain until after my own translation (death) from this bodily state.
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And you? I invite you to write in your MyStory journal about some significant vison, dream or reflection(s) that you would wish to remember and share.
Following from the last post where I mentioned Carl Jung’s Red Book, which was his record of active imagination encounters with his personal unconscious archetypes, allow me to add to the exploration of (your) MyStory memoirs a way to identify your own “Archemes;” a concept which I introduced in Your Life Path (Skyhorse, 2018). Just as we each have a finite number of definite themes or threads of experience that run through our lives either in whole or during specific life chapters or segments of our lifetimes, with each of these Life Themes we also all develop specific sorts of ROLES that pertain to those themes and that transform dramatically over time just like the character arcs of any narrative epic protagonists.
For example, some common Life Themes people identify by sorting types of their significant shaping events into KINDS of events include: Family, Education, Work/ Career, Romance/ Relationships, Friendships, Spirituality or Religion, and Travel. Notice how when you reflect on some of your own significant or “shaping” moments with respect to a few of these different Life Themes, you are somewhat a distinctive character from one to the other, and these characters evolve or transform as you have developed through these thematic movements in your life.
As an educator, for example, Education has certainly been a major, lifelong theme for me. And within that theme I have been the STUDENT (role type/ character) and the TEACHER, in various modes over time. Friends have sometimes chided me when, during a conversation, I might “shift into Teacher mode.” Whereas, as a spiritually oriented person, my persona can be quite more ‘esoteric’ or even ‘dreamy,’ as I practice daily contemplation, chant mantras, keep a dream journal, and allow myself to “surrender” to inner awareness or nudges from inner guidance. Yet still, with my pets it is all about unconditional love and gratitude; I sing spontaneous song lyrics as though life is a musical while walking with my beloved dog, Sophie. So yes, I recognize a pantheon of characters within my Self, as did Carl Jung. Like Jung I also realize how we project archetypal character forms onto or into those we interact with in our life relationships.
This week then, I invite you to take some tome to reflect in your MyStory (or any) journal on who you ARE, how your character shifts with different thematic expressions of your own Self. You could simply list some of the Life Themes you recognize, and next to those, name the character Roles or personas you have been developing in your life with regard to those different themes.
Which of these Archemes are best or least mature or developed in your life? Would you like to give some of your more submerged selves some more breathing room by getting back to some hobby or pasttime that helps you expand your deeper self?
Why do we so need a good Vacation or Holiday now and again? (For our more carefree Traveler or Family based selves to emerge for some needed ‘time out’?) Why do we wear special apparel and let ourselves get so excited by some hobby or at a Sports event? More profoundly, how do your different Parts of Self relate to and interact with others as well as among themselves? Try dialoguing in your journal sometime amongst some of your own various personas, especially with regard to some difficult decision or choice you might face.
Recognizing some of our own distinctive archetypal personas allows us to move consciously in the direction of a higher integration or polishing of our individuated Self, in Jung’s parlance. Joseph Campbell noted that those who refuse to accept and exercise their own internal archetypal diversity are the ones most in danger of a ‘schizophrenic’ breakup.
In composing MyStory memoirs, we are looking at particularly meaningful events, relationships, and themes that have deeply impacted and shaped the person you have become. These are situations or events that we tend to tell ‘our stories’ about, again and again, refining and embellishing these signature tales to bring out their messages as life lessons or as highlight adventures that have come to define us. We each have these stories in us that we have shared time and again. I believe it is helpful and illuminating to collect these tales, to assemble them in a volume or journal that you can rightly title MyStory.
MyStory tales are usually about transformational moments or relationships in our lives, so recording these stories allows you to uncover and reveal the mystery of your MyStory: to unravel the interwoven key lessons and insights of a lifetime or of a meaningful chapter of your own mythic Life Story.
This week I will focus on my own Life Theme of Mentors. If you recognize a similar meaningful theme, or maybe a larger umbrella theme such as Relationships or Education, I invite you to reflect and journal your own stories around this theme this week. (Please feel free to share your story with me and I would be happy to reblog it, or you can refer to your journaling insights in Comments.)
To exemplify what I mean by a transformational MyStory tale, I will focus on one of three hugely influential mentors from my life: Dr. Antoinette (Toni) Mann Paterson, whom her Philosophy students sometimes referred to as “Tone-the-Bone” Paterson.
My Life Mentor, Toni P.
I have so many significant memories of Toni P that it is difficult to select just one or two; cumulatively her mentorship and moreover her friendship changed me entirely. From her I learned to contemplate the majesty of the smallest details of life and to expand my own potentials accordingly. I also learned that one can be a learned scholar in academia without sacrificing one’s creativity and spiritual practice. So, I will assemble a few of the most memorable insights and stories I have acquired from the blessing of this great mentor in my life.
The Mighty Acorn
I mother-sat for Toni P’s mom, Mary Mann, around three days a week for 2-4 hours a day over several years, at Toni’s old Victorian home in Buffalo, New York. Dr. P was a full Professor of Philosophy at Buffalo State (SUNY) College, where I met her while an undergraduate student. Mother-sitting provided a wonderful opportunity to spend quality time with both her mother Mary and with Toni herself. One day over lunch, while we were discoursing about religion and whether she believed in (a) God, Toni shared with me about an interaction she had with her son in Delaware Park when he was young.
Toni found an acorn on the ground beneath a giant Oak Tree. She held the acorn in her hand, studying its magnificence. Then she handed the Acorn to her son as a special gift.
“This,” Toni said to her son, “is God!”
The small acorn carries, in seed form, the grand design of a majestic, mighty oak. TP shared this story also to explain why all the furniture in her beloved Victorian Buffalo home was made of Oak. Most of her furniture she had acquired from Salvation Army stores. She loved finding gems where others might see only used, disposable objects; this too was a lesson for me.
Who Are You, Really?
Shortly after I first met Toni P (another tale worth telling!), after a Creative Studies–my Minor–class that she had visited to talk with us about ‘the philosophy of creativity,’ She asked me point-blank:
“What is your name?”
“Linda,” I answered.
“No, I mean what is your REAL name?”
I was flummoxed. “What do you mean?,” I asked her. Then I told her of how when I was around six or seven my brother had told me I was adopted, which I could not disprove because my mother had lost my birth certificate. I had created a fictional name for myself: April Thornton.
“April.” Toni repeated the name. “Yes, I will call you April.”
What was this about, in retrospect? I think she was asking me if I had yet discovered my IDENTITY. Truly at that point in time, I had not. I was whom others saw in me; I had no mature, core sense of self. I carried this question with me for many years and in fact underwent several periods of psychotherapy to explore and gradually to discover and express Who I Am. I am grateful to TP for this quest.
So What? Whan!
To complete this ensemble of MyStory tales about my dear mentor, Toni P, let me describe her a bit further and tell a classic story of how she taught me to probe deeply into the meaning of life.
Toni published a book called THE INFINITE WORLDS OF GIORDANO BRUNO, and she was a supporter (and colleague) of Immanuel Velikovsky–who, like Bruno (burned at the stake in the 1400s for the heresy of telling people to seek truth experientially Within instead of through priests), was vilified in mainstream academia for his WORLDS IN COLLISION book, where he explored historical truth via studying cultural myths.
Also, while not religious, Toni P was one of the most spiritually aware persons I have ever known. She would stand before students in her Philosophy classes lecturing with her eyes closed, and then she would open her eyes and stare directly at a particular student to ask a bold question. E.G. That first day I had met her at the Creative Studies class, she arrived early and was sitting at a round table with students to whom she had not yet been introduced. She picked up and examined a papier mache art project of a student who had come from an art class, of a human dancer, I think. “HOW THE HELL DID YOU DO THIS!?” Toni asked the astounded student. “I mean, how the Hell can you do this, when I can hardly draw a stick figure?” Then as class opened and she was introduced, Dr. Paterson discoursed about a philosophy of creativity.
When I mother-sat, one day over lunch Toni explained how every day she “dived into the Ocean,” meaning she took a contemplative ‘nap’ (what Jung would call active imagination) on the little cot she slept on in her bedroom.
Now then, one day I was depressed. I came into her office for my Independent Study on a topic we had agreed to: ”a philosophy of, not Science, but Silence.
“So, what?” I asked my mentor.
She responded: “Take out a piece of paper and a pencil and write two words: So, What, question-mark.”For your assignment this week, answer that question. Bring me your answer next Wednesday.”
So, all that next week I searched the library for literary and philosophical clues to the question I had posed of “So, What?” I abstracted readings and wrote in my journal. Ralph Waldo Emerson, for instance, wrote an essay on “The Transparent Eyeball” that I found useful to the probe. Again I found this was about personal identity, whether “I” had any distinct meaning or purpose as an individual.
I arrived at Toni P’s office for our class session that next Wednesday. I told her about some of the thoughts I had arrived at but admitted I had not really answered the question.
Toni had set up a card table with a large, blank roll of sketch paper draped over it, and she called me to sit down at the table. With a large felt pen she wrote the following words at the compass points of the paper:
WHO
WHAT
WHERE
WHEN
WHAT
She placed each of these WH- words strategically in a circle on the paper, like compass points, and then drew lines to connect them to one another. She intersected them all at the center of the page, where she wrote one more word:
W H A N
“There is the answer to ‘So What?’,” Toni said. “It is WHAN.”
This solution was totally understandable and made total sense. Yes, of course. At the intersection of all the WH- questions, is WHAN. What is the meaning of Life? WHAN. The purpose? WHAN.
In other words, questions are meaningless in themselves. Life IS what it IS, and that is not only OK; It is GOOD; It is WHAN, and that is enough.
“It Just Is!”, I soon after discovered independently, is a profound spiritual Truth. Try sometime just chanting the word IS, over and over as a mantra. (I did that for several hours one day, and arrived at a remarkable inner awareness!)
There are more stories about Toni P that I will include in my MyStory logs. But this is enough to share here!
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What of your greatest Teachers or Mentors? What life lessons have they helped you to learn? I invite you to write your own MyStory memoirs, to probe your own mystery: Who are you, really? Why are you Here?
We are in a crisis of narrative schismogenesis in the sociopolitical climate of America (at least) today. Gregory Bateson, in Steps To an Ecology of Mind (1981), described schismogenesis as an ever widening schism of viewpoints between opposing sides or persons in argument with one another. An example Bateson gave was how an argument can escalate between spouses. The more each person “digs in” to their position as antithetical to their opponent, the further apart their viewpoints become until there is no way to bridge the chasm behind the barriers of which they are each entrenched.
Let’s say the husband asks where they would like to go to eat dinner, for instance, and the wife says Chinese, knowing that her husband is not particularly fond of Chinese cuisine. He then declines and suggests a polar-opposite sort of cuisine, say Mexican for example, to which she declines and then they dig into why each of the choices they have proffered are not only the best solution but an absolute necessity for that evening’s meal. In the end, perhaps the two spouses each go their separate ways for dinner that night, leading to hard feelings for days.
This is a trite example, especially given the deep gravity of the dangerous schismogenetic chasm so many are entrenched behind with today’s fractious tribalism of the Partisan Divide. We harbor two tribes living within distinct reality fields, each accusing the other side of not only being wrong (using “fake news”) but even regarding each other as “evil” in their supposed intentions and actions.
I try to remain as neutral as possible, aware that truth is absolutely relative, after all, depending on one’s basis of evidence and their sources of information. People dig in to the banks of the side they have chosen—or to which they have been conditioned—often unwilling to even listen to let alone to hear or comprehend statements from the enemy tribe.
Anthropologically (my professional field), it is clear that schismogenetic ruptures have often led tribal groups to divide or fission into distinct, rival factions, sometimes—where there is space enough available—resulting in the opposing factions actually moving away from each other to establish separate villages. The Blues and the Reds do not have such luxury of spatial expanse to divide into. North and South are no longer culturally divided in toto, so we live side by side with neighbors from rival factions every day. We are thus divided within the same village, state, nation, and global society.
How can we overcome this Divide? We must somehow, locally and personally as well as collectively, find ways to change the narrative. Couples psychotherapists–and Bateson himself in Steps to an Ecology of Mind–would suggest mediation is a key first step to confronting and dismantling a factional schismogenetic divide. Representatives from each tribe or faction need to convene and meet somewhere at the middle, in the company of an agreed upon mediating person or agency.
Each side’s story needs to be aired—and heard, without opposition or resistance—with the mediator serving as a buffer. After both narratives are fully expressed, the mediator might summarize each point of view succinctly, validating facets of both viewpoints and helping to delineate some commonalities that could begin to construct a narrative bridge, upon which both persons or sides might at least meet upon to acknowledge the availability of a middle ground.
After such an open hearing and mediation process, each representative returns to share with their members and then of course each tribe is free to do what they will with the knowledge gained. They carry the awareness of a willingness of the Other to have at least sought mediation with them. This can lead to a gradual rebuilding of trust and mutual acceptance, at least.
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I speak from some experience about the therapeutic value of a mediation process. I and a dear friend, she now being departed, once ran into a barrier with one another that grew into a painful schismogenetic chasm for many months. We agreed to meet with a psychotherapist, which made all the difference in helping each of us to find a greater balance in understanding and mutual acceptance. We came away remembering our ultimate friendship, which has remained vital ever on.
So when faced with an immoveable common barrier between opposing narratives, seek mediation.
Though I have other posts to get to putting up, today I have had two influences that lead me to want to add a follow up to the post last week about The Value of Now.
The first nudge is based on a wonderful quote by C.S. Lewis from Soul Gatherings, a blog I follow and love to read daily like a fortune cookie, by Theresa:
You can’t go back and change the beginning,
but you can start where you are and change the ending.
~ C.S. Lewis ~
Obviously C. S. Lewis was advocating for a practice of Better Endings.
Then today I happened upon a movie about the implications of parallel realities: Yesterday. This is a fun story about a fairly unsuccessful but well-motivated musician in England named Jack Malik who, after a bus accident caused by a global blackout, wakes up to find he is living in a reality where, among some other odd glitches, nobody has ever heard of The Beatles! So, Mark reintroduces Beatles songs as if he were the original songwriter/ singer, and he attains great success and fame for his apparent genius.
I will not spoil the ending to Yesterday for you; this is a film well worth seeing. But it led me to think about how, since Time as we think we know it is an illusion according to modern physicists as well as many spiritual philosophies, then past and present Moments can rightly be considered parallel realities.
If we consider the future, such as Tomorrow, to be a parallel reality to Now, then what are some implications for, again, the value of Today?
A betterendings visualization: Imagine that tomorrow is a parallel reality to today. Many aspects remain stable across these parallel worlds: you are still where and how you are living though a day older, most routines are intact, etcetera. But creatively envision adding one TWEAK to your parallel reality of tomorrow. What element(s) might you change as you shift upon waking tomorrow morning into a slightly more ideal or satisfactory reality sphere? To be effective with this technique, you might consider only tweaking tomorrow slightly, to a reality it is quite feasible and possible for you to realize without too shocking of a reality shift.
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You can extend this thought experiment to a future a bit further out to add some more meaningful or life-changing, reality bending tweaks. Six months from today what might your future look like from an ideal standpoint? Write it down, describe yourself living in a parallel reality six months from now that contains the sorts of changes you wish were possible. Then consider, what steps can you take now, and in the near foreseeable future, to bring this new reality about?
Since the future IS a parallel reality to the present Moment, we CAN tweak those elements we would like to change, then carry forth in that direction.
In my early college years, I often mused over the thought that “Today is Yesterday’s Tomorrow.” Now while exploring implications of the principle of Better Endings for creative re-visioning, this phrase has come back into the foreground for my understanding.
It is a truism that yesterday’s future is where you stand/ think/ act today. As well though, consider: When you have a memory of a “past” event, this memory is transpiring in your mind’s eye only NOW, filtered through your reflection and projection in the present moment. As your consciousness changes, so does your view of the past, coloring a memory and recasting it in the present moment.
We rescript our life story and hence our personal reality moment by moment, day by day.
Likewise, when you conceive of or envision a “future” condition or action, this visualization is occurring in your mind’s eye right NOW, also as a projection from your immediate-present waking awareness (or in your dream awareness: when you dream of a future or a past event, the dream is still occurring NOW).
The future has no reality apart from our projections about it, for as soon as the next day or another moment arrives, it is NOW.
As well, your anticipations or expectations about “future” events are multiplex; you may envision a wide array of possible or probable outcomes of present conditions, yet these can unfold only as a future-NOW event.
The future, as a mere projection from our current outlook, exists as a potentially infinite array of possibilities limited primarily by the constraints we impose as determined by our present state of bias or beliefs.
The simple fact, then, that Tomorrow’s Yesterday is Today carries great value; this is the value, the amazing potential, of NOW.
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Below is a Better Endings Seed, a visualization exercise that you may use for journaling or contemplation:
What’s Coming Up for you Tomorrow, and how may it be influenced by aspects of the thought world you inhabit Today?
If you desire to improve your Tomorrow, how might you tweak your prospective outlook today?
An easy way to apply this Better Endings visualization technique is to make a list of some of what you expect to do or aim to accomplish tomorrow. THEN: ADD ONE NEW ELEMENT that will make your tomorrow more exciting or more creatively productive. Add ONE THING that will propel you forward Tomorrow in a different, more progressive direction.
Please feel free to Comment about the results of this thought experiment!
I have recently quit a part-time job that was engaging and interesting, but that required me to accept a toxic environment. I truly enjoyed what I was learning and being able to contribute as a service to the company as well as its clients. But when I discovered the building had partially unmitigated asbestos in its old and somewhat cracked tile flooring, after some studying up on the subject online I knew I could not continue to work at that site. I had recently vacuumed and the broken vacuum had spewed a cloud of dust into my face, before I had learned of the asbestos.
So I explained that I could not work in that environment. For a few weeks I tried to to see if perhaps there was a way I could do the work from home, while also teaching the role to the second in command at my home. Ultimately I realized it it was not ideal for the company or for myself to try to conduct that role remotely.
So I finally uttered the words, “I quit.” Immediately I felt the relief that comes with a positive, self-affirming decision, bringing—yes—a better ending to an unbalanced situation. It has felt very liberating and creatively productive to return to my more unscheduled life, with no more clocking in and out on company time schedules.
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Better endings, remember, are not always happier ones, but when they bring clarity and closure to an unstable or lingering situation, they can lead to New Beginnings!
Better Endings Story Seed: Toxic Conditions?
Have you had the experience of being able to free yourself from a toxic situation? Or, are you currently engaged in a situation with toxic elements to it? Journal about how you found your way free from a toxic situation from the past, or about the toxic elements you have been dealing with. In what ways might the principle of Better Endings potentially relate to your experiences?
A Better Endings outlook is first and foremost a choice to maintain a positive attitude, despite or even especially in the face of life’s challenges. How can we maintain optimism, though, when beset by the heavy weight of a current problem? Recently I have stumbled upon a way out from under the otherwise debilitating burden of a pressing life situation.
I am transitioning out of my part-time job, one that I have deeply valued, because of an irresolvable environmental concern. I have been troubling over this decision, but I do know it is the right choice for me based on health considerations. So I have been mulling over this situation and yesterday arrived at a breakthrough realization that I am calling my “happiness quotient.”
I started counting my blessings compared to the negative factors I am moving through. I thought, well, most of my life remains positive, so I started adding up the percentages of positive aspects I am happy about in comparison to the elements that have been weighing me down.
For example (Readers, please make your own list), What I am Happy About: * my pets, Sophie and Emily (healthy, loving companions) * my family being nearer since my relocating * good friends nearby, old and new, including my best high school buddy and her husband * good friends I am still close with after all these years (many moons and and many moves!) * My new book being released May 6 ! (see right panels for a Goodreads Giveaway and to pre-order) * Continuing to teach anthropology online (my passion) * my home environment: small hometown, river, lake, performing art center * my spiritual practice and community activities * my relative good health and prosperity * my freedom
And What I am Unhappy or Challenged About (Readers again, please compose your own current list): * leaving a job I have treasured and the people there whom I have been befriending * the state of the world
So, when I count up my current factors for Happiness (N=10) against more negative factors (N=2), add them together (12) and calculate the percentage of happy to total factors (10/12 as x/100), I realize I have a Happiness Quotient of 84%. This awareness lifts my spirits and helps me to RELEASE what simply it is timely to Let Go!
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So, how about you? Try this one on for size. See if it might help you to put ‘things’ into a broader perspective. And importantly if it does not; if your Happiness Quotient turns out to be lower than you would like, then I would invite you to journal about (or contemplate or talk with your loved ones about) how you might introduce some better endings re-visioning into your current life chapter. What can you do to increase your happiness and to decrease the weight of current burdens?
Please feel free to share about your results in Comments below.
A few weeks ago an odd thing happened. I found a single jigsaw puzzle piece on my living room carpet. This was odd because I have not worked on a jigsaw puzzle for over a year (and I have vacuumed several times since then!); and because the last puzzle I did put together is complete and I have not disassembled it. No missing pieces.
I showed the puzzle piece to a friend who sometimes works puzzles and has visited at my home, but no, she says it could not be from her either.
The puzzle piece itself is not so extraordinary: a sliver of the top of a white and grey cloud against a line of maybe blue mountain scape on a horizon, against a dark blue background. Let’s say it could symbolize a cloud’s silver lining—then, for me as the finder, what could be its significance?
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Maybe that is just it: my missing piece of the puzzle of life is to find silver linings! Sometimes I do need to remember that; not to stress out when things go out of kilter a bit, either in everyday life or in the larger scheme of worldly events. Depending on one’s outlook or one’s position in a situation, there can always be a silver lining discerned: opportunities disguised as setbacks.
Still, this could be but one of my “missing puzzle pieces.” As a journaling exercise I recommend answering What Is My Missing Puzzle Piece About? Brainstorm several possible answers and then explore or contemplate each response. For example, for me (I always sample first any better endings journaling tool I offer to others), my brainstorming could include:
My Missing Puzzle Piece Could Be About:
Taking more time to investigate a situation before acting
Listening with greater, and longer, patience
More free time for sheer enjoyment
Dropping the mind in contemplation practice
More laughter, at myself, and healthy humor generally
Ways to arrive at greater clarity and conviction
Acceptance, gratitude
And so on…guess I have plenty more Puzzles to solve!
How about You? How might you answer this probe? What might your puzzle piece look like? What could it represent for you?
Better Endings, and the new beginnings that generally follow from them, start with creative re-visioning. That is the greatest lesson I have taken away from exploring the principle of Better Endings for this blog and in my life over the past several years.
Sometimes I refer to the practice of creative re-visioning itself as better-endering, a play on the phrase from Camelot of ‘happily ever-aftering.’ Of course, not all ‘better endings’ are happy ones; rather, they bring benefits of helping people to resolve situations–sometimes deeply buried in past memories but affecting current outlooks or decisions—so they can move forward with greater awareness to move toward a ‘better’ future.
So, what is Re-Visioning? It is a viewpoint we can apply to past, present, or future situations or choices that allows us to look “anew” or with a “fresh pair of lenses” from our most mature and mindful Self.
We can re-vision a past trauma, for instance, to come to a better understanding of how that came about, what we have learned from the experience, and how we can go forward knowing we could handle such a situation differently today. We can re-vision the present by asking ourselves, have we fallen into any sort of “rut” that is impeding our progress toward our highest goals; if so, how shall we move forward again? We can re-vision the future by looking at where we appear to be headed and asking ourselves, is that where we want to arrive; if not, what specific steps can we take now or in the near foreseeable future that could propel us in a new direction we truly desire to explore.
Here is a practice:
Better Endings Story Seed: Creative Re-Visioning
Make a list of 3-5 situations from your past that you feel influenced the person you have become either in a positive way or a negative way (please include at least one or more of both). Then, quietly reflect about, talk with a loved one about, or journal about each of the situations you have listed. What was most helpful about the positive influences? Why or how did the negative situations come about?
Finally, go back in your active imagination to the more challenging situation, bringing your more mature attitude and sense of greater empowerment or free will today with you. What could you do differently or tell your younger self to do differently? How might that have changed your life? Can you do something today to celebrate AS IF you have resolved that earlier challenge?
“I dreamed it, man!” – Aaron Donald LA Rams defensive tackle (2/13/22, after VLII Superbowl game)
What a wonderful contemplation seed!
The legendary NFL player, Aaron Donald, was not speaking figuratively after his team’s recent Superbowl win; he really did dream of his game-ending play. Donald sacked the opposing team’s quarterback in the 4th quarter on 4th down with 1 yard to reach a first down, and with only seconds left to play. Had the Bengals gained that first down they would have likely at least tied the score and sent this year’s Superbowl game into overtime. But the lineman who sacked the QB to win the Big Game for his team had “dreamed it!” and so it came to be.
What does it take to synch your inner dream world of goals and ‘can do’ possibilities with your outer world of physical action, resulting in the realization of your deeply cherished ideals? Here is a better endings question well worth pursuing.
If you can visualize achieving your goal, as successful athletes and stage performers learn well, then you can manifest that vision. You forge a thought mold, and then you fill it. There is nothing mysterious or magical or difficult or forbidden about this process of manifestation. But it takes dedication to a worthy goal, study and practice to achieve the skill necessary to enact the pattern (fill the mold), and strong belief in your own ability or talent.
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Better Endings Story Seed: Live Your Dream
Have you ever worked so hard at pursuing a goal that you literally dreamed of your success and then found yourself living out that dream in ‘real life’? How can you apply your faculty of creative visualization to realize or bring yourself nearer to fulfilling some worthy goal? Journal in your Better Endings Journal (any loose-leaf paper or blank page book) about a ‘dream’ or goal that you would like to bring into reality. Imagine yourself achieving your goal. What do you see? How DID you do it?
I have always loved the question, and ask it a lot both of myself and of others: “Why Are You Here?” Recently I have come to a further understanding of how this is a potentially inspiring ‘better endings’ prompt as a journaling or contemplation seed.
“Why are you here?” carries the double entendre of referring either to the immediate moment or to the ultimate question of what your life purpose is, or your sense of mission.
Why are you here?
WHY ARE YOU HERE?
Either side of this double-faceted query is worth pondering, and it can be illuminating to observe as well how they might converge!
Recently I have accepted a part-time job working at an academic publishing company in my local home community. It has been quite an adjustment to be working four days a week (plus continuing online teaching mainly in the evenings for now), around 24 hours per week, after having settled into a rather comfortable semi-retirement lifestyle with a lot of daily flexibility. So, I ask myself, “Why am I here? (at the new job), from both an immediate and a more ultimate spiritual perspective.
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Okay, so I am certainly on a learning curve at the new job, learning about the inner workings of a publishing business. I find myself in a service role there, aiming to help not only by doing the cataloguing work I am assigned to but also helping implement ideas to help the business grow there despite the transition from print to ebooks in the publishing world. While I also am earning some additional income toward my later years savings goals, the work is fulfilling as a growth opportunity. It requires me to draw on inner creative resources as well as to engage in positive co-workership with the small team that runs the daily operations of the Press.
Knowing how an experience such as a job carries value and contributes to my ultimate spiritual and social goals helps me to frame how this experience can be best integrated into the rest of my life. I do not want to allow this part-time job to prevent me from continuing with teaching—which I find ultimately fulfilling in itself—or to limit my own writing, creative, and spiritual practice activities, or to limit my time with my pets and family and friends! So, I need to monitor how things are going. I do not want to fit myself to the new job but rather intend to integrate the job into my deeper life as a whole.
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Better Endings Story Seed:
Why Are You Here?
Ask yourself this question at two different levels: Why are you Here? in your job, social life or location; and WHY ARE YOU HERE? in terms of your spiritual or whole-life goals? Contemplate and/or discuss and journal about this question. I suggest it will take several passes at contemplation and journaling to really sort this out, but as it is a question of defining your life purpose or mission and how your life relates to those, it may be quite worth your while!
Better Endings 