A major underlying principle for maintaining a ‘better endings’ mindset is FLEXIBILITY. My personal analog for the sort of flexibility needed to foster better endings derives from fencing. As a foil fencer on a successful intercollegiate tournament fencing team in the 1970’s, I learned quite viscerally how “movement” is all important for creating, recognizing, and acting upon opportunities to “score.”
ADVANCE – RETREAT – FEINT – ADVANCE – BEAT – RETREAT – DOUBLE RETREAT – DOUBLE BEAT – DOUBLE ADVANCE – PARRY- DOUBLE DISENGAGE — RIPOSTE-LUNGE! (Et Lá!)
The above choreography is an example of the sort of on-your-feet (LOL) maneuvering that might happen in the Moment of a fencing bout for one ‘touch’ sequence. (Dear Ro, my former Teammate: I hope you are reading!)
In fencing as in life, if you are too rigid with your plan of attack, for instance; or, if you freeze on the piste (fencing strip), you are quite likely to be hit (touché!) by your more fluid opponent. But if you remain in constant motion, both physically with your footwork and mentally with your awareness, you stand a good chance of creating the opportunities, at least, for scoring.
Better Endings shift as your awareness expands. One day you might consider one hopeful new direction only to realize an even greater goal the next. The process of moving in the direction of your goals helps you to understand the deeper reasons for seeking these ‘better endings.’ So, you benefit from remaining open and attentive to your own needs and the needs of those around you who might benefit from your actions as well.
I find myself working constantly on self-improvement, which I believe is true for most people, especially once one starts to see how the process of self-improvement really can produce positive results. I like to try new approaches to situations in life that may not have worked out great by earlier means, then to learn from the new results.
One quick example: rather than taking personally potentially hurtful statements someone might make in an online Zoom session, I am learning how to truly forgive and forget…well, if not to forget, at least to accept and move on without countering or reacting negatively myself.
In fencing terms that is called fencing “with absence of the blade!” Et lá!
Better Endings Story Seed:
Flexibility: Your Key to Better Endings
How about you? In what arenas of your life do you find that being flexible helps promote your higher awareness and illuminates your deeper goals? How might this lead for you to ‘better endings’ in a situation with which you are currently engaged?