How I’ve Learned of Better Endings from my Mom

My mother is a visionary, aware Spirit, and she always has been.  I shared the other day of this week’s tribute to her how she saved my siblings and I from a lightning strike in our backyard pool by a sudden awareness to get us out of the water, fast! This is not the only time my mother’s receptive awareness has saved the life of one or more of her children. The most amazing of all of these times I don’t feel I should share about online. Suffice to say, at a moment of a terrible crisis involving one of her children, Mom–Elizabeth–came through heroically, acting swiftly to protect her child from what could have been a deeper trauma. She is my Hero for this, more so honestly than anyone else I have ever yet met in this world.

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Elizabeth with her daughter (my sister) Carole,

photo by Carole

So here is some of what and how I have learned about Life and Better Endings from my mother:

  • Always think before acting: I remember as a very young child, I was with Mom and one of my sisters at a busy intersection we needed to cross to get to our house. She said ‘okay’, but she was not referring to the traffic being clear. I immediately stepped into the road and might have been hit but that she swiftly stepped forward to pull me back. “ALWAYS look for yourself!” she taught me that day, and I have never forgotten.
  • Work hard and Play hard, too:  Mom is a smart lady. Although she gave up going on to focus on a career as a nurse technician out of college because of her commitment to being there for her children at a time when that’s what Mothers usually did, she worked as a substitute mathematics teacher off and on and later in life she worked at a collections office. Two of her daughters including Carole, shown above, earned accounting degrees and went from there to highly successful positions (as have the rest of us in other areas, too.) It was Mom who taught me the value of doing my homework–on more levels than one. She helped all of us at a young age to comprehend math and always had a willing ear for poetry or writing as well as our musical instrument practices, and she loves History. She kept amazing scrapbooks of key historical events: JFK’s funeral, and the first Moon Landing, I recall. At the same time, I always remember Mom, who played piano herself BTW, also playing golf and bridge and Scrabble with the same aplomb she would help us learn to apply to our intellectual studies or music. She taught us not just a work ethic but to apply LOVE to all that we do.  This carried over through college years for me as I was able to appreciate the interconnectedness of all subject areas, and of all my studies with the art of fencing or even a good long walk down a city street in Buffalo. I attribute this to the love of Life my mother engendered in me.


  • A keen interest in Spirituality in all forms: In highschool for science projects I was drawn to ‘fringe’ sorts of topics: UFO’s, hypnotism, reincarnation, and Mom was always there to help me develop the presentations. She may not remember but it was her books, We are Not Alone, then Bridey Murphy, that first opened me to the awareness, quoting Shakespeare, that “there are more things in Heaven and on Earth,…than are dreamt of in [a common] philosophy”. Two years ago at Christmas I shared Eben Alexander’s Proof of Heaven with most of my family, and I believe my sister Cheryl read that to Mom. I do believe that there is much more to Life than we see on the Outer; and I have been most fortunate to explore those Inner realms a great deal. Mom’s father–the grandfather I never met outwardly, Verling–was a Methodist minister; and two of her daughters are ordained clergy now in rather liberal and inclusive spiritual traditions.
  • A smile brightens everyone’s day and lightens your–and others’–loads: Life is hard enough in this shadowland world we sometimes experience. Life can be a world of Adventure, especially when shared with those you love and who love You!

I love you, Mom! As we are approaching Mother’s Day, and your own Birthday in May, I celebrate you!

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Hand releasing exotic butterflies.

I hope this personal tribute to my own Mother might inspire readers to make your own list of how and what you have learned about Life and Better Endings from your own family! Certainly feel free to share any Insights or Stories you might wish to share with others Here!

Family and Better Endings: Reflection Prompts


Better Endings and Family would seem to go together seamlessly, and for many it probably does. Not all families are in optimal conditions or situations, though, so Better Endings in these cases might be more about the love and support, or shared grief, that Family brings even to situations of the most dire hardship or disaster.


The following Tuesday Prompts List aims to cover a wide array of conceivable topics for your reflection. I invite you to write/ journal, contemplate/ meditate about, talk about, or artistically represent your responses to one or more of the following prompts about Family and Better Endings. :

  • Ability and disability
  • Addiction and co-dependency
  • Survival
  • Adoptive family
  • Fosterage
  • Coaching/ inspiration
  • Life lessons learned
  • Working together
  • Role models
  • Refuge
  • Brothers and sisters
  • Mothers and Daughters/ Sons
  • Fathers and Sons/ Daughters
  • Growing up fast
  • Pet family
  • Diverse family
  • Buddies: friends as family
  • Elder care
  • Health and family
  • Death in the family
  • In-laws
  • Divorce and/or remarriage
  • Living with parents as an adult


As I am dedicating this week to my Mother, Elizabeth, here she is at her nursing home with her beloved feline friend, Peek-a-Boo. The picture is from my sister Cheryl, who is our Mom’s nearest caregiver in Upper Western New York. Peek-a-Boo is living with Cheryl because the nursing home can’t manage pet residents, so when Mom and Peek-a-Boo are able to visit, you can see the joy of their Soul-to-Soul connection. Thanks, Cheryl!


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I welcome your insights, Comments, and stories on any of the above themes. Whether you share with us here or not, I hope that one or more of these prompts might lead to Better Endings to you or your loved ones via your own reflections!